I'm sure you're saying, huh? Such mundane things.
But to me, these are two very small items in my daily new mommy life that have significant messages to how God is currently shaping me and molding me. How he's digging into my heart and rearranging some things. Getting rid of some things. Replacing some things.
Since we live by the Spirit, let us keep in step with the Spirit. Let us not become conceited, provoking and envying each other.
-Galatians 5: 25-26 (NIV)
Or I really like the way The Message words it...
Since this is the kind of life we have chosen, the life of the Spirit, let us make sure that we do not just hold it as an idea in our heads or a sentiment in our hearts, but work out its implications in every detail of our lives. That means we will not compare ourselves with each other as if one of us were better and another worse. We have far more interesting things to do with our lives.
Each of us is an original.
-Galatians 5:25-26 (The Message)
So let me break this down before I go any further.
Every detail of our lives. (Yep, God is teaching me through jarred baby food and disposable diapers.)
We will not compare ourselves with each other. (The heart of this post.)
Each of us is an original. (That means every. single. one. of. us. There are no exceptions.)
This mommy thing is so precious. The best role I've ever played. By far. God designed me to be a mommy. I just know deep down He did. It feels so natural to me. So right. So perfect. And how neat is it that He is using this exact same role that I feel so confident and bold in to strip my heart down and humble me. Our God is an amazing God.
If you've been reading for long or know me in real life, you know that there are many things I have written about or shared about or you've seen me do in action as a mom.
making my own baby food
made my own bows
DIYed tons of her nursery
We could go on. But this is where I want to explain. We read blogs, we chat, we see each other in our everyday lives living out this mommy thing (or if you're not one, you may see and read things that churn ideas and thoughts for how you will be in the future as a mommy). We see the good mostly. We see the comparisons. We focus on the "how she does it part". We get caught up in what everyone else is doing. How it should be done.
God has been teaching me a lot about this comparison thing. He said it right there in scripture, it's not healthy. It's not how we're supposed to live. Maybe you've seen the quote floating around Pinterest..."Comparison is the thief of joy." Seriously, y'all. True story! God is teaching me to let go. To be the mommy I know is best for my baby. Not for anyone else's judgements. To be confident in how I do things and to reflect. But to know that this mommy thing is different for everyone. We're all original mommies. We aren't here to beat ourselves up. Or to beat each other up. We are here to fulfill the role God has blessed us with. So many times, I read blogs or see something or hear something that makes me think, "oh...if only I could do that...could be that....could...." That's not healthy. I want to live my daily life pointing to God. He's the one that provides daily grace in my life. He's the one that makes me the original mommy that I am. What I am in His eyes is all that matters.
So I don't want to be someone that you may read my blog or see me in person and think, "oh...I wish I could do it that way...or be that way..."
So to help you out. To keep you from comparing like I often do. Here's two things that I don't do...
I don't cloth diaper full time. We've had crazy leak issues with the cloth. We use disposables unless we're just around the house or heading to Adeline's grandparents'.
I make some of my own baby food. Not all. I am a big believer in organic food and staying away from preservatives and artificial stuff for Adeline for health-sake. But she eats jarred baby food. Gasp.
To me...those two things have been huge in how God has taught me to let go. (Those are just two in a long list.) Those two things represent something that I have heard so many times from other moms that it's so neat that I do that...that they wish they could be a "good mom" and do that. Gross. No. If you're baby is happy and healthy and you're doing the best you can. You are a good mom! What works for one...doesn't work for the other. We are all originals. The other side of this is, no. I do not consider myself better than you or that my way is more perfect than yours because of these things. It's what works for our family. We are all originals. God said so. Not one of His children is better than another. I believe it whole-heartedly.
So where do we go from here?
We show grace.
To ourselves and to each other.
We lift each other up in the Spirit as He does for us every single day.
We live transparently in a way that points to the Savior.
He gets the glory for this mommy role. Not us.
And we let go and live the life of the Spirit in every detail of our lives...jarred baby food, disposable diapers, and all.